KEEPING IN TOUCH
When I decided to leave everything for almost a complete year a lot of things crossed my mind. But at the top of that list was the fact that I would be away from my family and friends for such a long time. I started thinking a lot about relationships. I am thinking about certain people all of the time. But I am talking about what it really means to have a relationship and friendship with someone.
More than once in the last three months Tanja and I have been put in a situation where we seem to be the ones reaching out to people and saying hello or how are you, but we get nothing in return. Maybe it's because we have "more time" on our hands. We do understand the world keeps spinning and everyone else has jobs and is still running about their day to day activities. But my point? Is it that hard to respond to a message or email?
I'm not just talking about myself and response time, but just in general. How important is it to stay connected with someone? Anymore I feel like social media connects us too much. More than we really need. The fact that we can now see if a person has "seen" our message or if they are typing to respond. It's kind of tiring. I know we are not the only ones with the little ball of anxiety building inside of us waiting for the reply after each day passes sense the day that they have "seen" the message.
I am grateful for social media don't get me wrong, but I love writing postcards. I have written more in the last three months then I probably have my whole life put together. I see writing a postcard as a gesture. It's no longer a way to keep in touch with someone. Everyone knows if I am in Greece or Italy, but it's the time and the effort I took to write the simple hello. I think that because communicating with people is so simple now we really take it for granted.
When we were in Greece and we made our new friend Kornelia she brought up such a good point to us. After she moved to Santorini from Germany she had some good advice. And that was when you leave your home for a long time you really find out who your true friends are. I figured that out really fast even right before I left for the this trip. We all have friends that make the effort to stop by even if it's for ten minutes and you and we have those friends that fly across the country to see you right before you leave.
I always ask myself if they aren't putting the effort to say hello then should I? I always say, "it takes two." I still really believe that, but does there ever come a time when it's not worth it anymore? I suppose for something so simple as writing an email (and please stop making excuses... we are all on our phones/laptops/ipads 24/7) it shouldn't be that hard.
I love how easy it is to make someones day just by saying hello. So I suppose my point to this little rampage is just make the effort. How important is that person to you? Because unfortunately we can't hear one another's thoughts about each other. We sometimes have to take the time to type.